As a parent, I hope to instill in my children an appreciation and respect for flexibility. With this, I am talking about mental and emotional flexibility, though physical flexibility is to be respected and is something to strive for too. (Though I admit, my mental flexibility far surpasses my physical flexibility at this time. My physical flexibility is yet another thing I need to improve upon. My kids can likely teach me a thing or two!) I am by no means an expert in flexibility, but I truly value the skill of “going with the punches” and being able to bend to adapt to whatever situation I am in.
I think patience is another valuable skill closely related to flexibility. Without patience, you can easily lose your cool and waste negative energy wishing and ranting for things to be a different way. Instead, being more accepting of a situation helps you better tackle whatever challenge are coming your way. And in addition, flexibility, over rigidity, is definitely key to overcoming life’s challenges.
A good way I try to show this to my children is by helping them navigate their afternoon routines. It never seems to go to plan to get all their homework and afternoon activities done in the exact order I plan. Instead of panicking or being upset by this, I feel it is way more productive (and less dramatic) to accept the events as they come, and simply tackle the next step when you can. This teaches grace under pressure, but also helps them navigate the fine art of time management. Time is truly valuable to me, a finite resource you cannot get back, and I hope to train my children to better utilize the time they have. Being young, I can see that time feels infinite and plentiful. Perhaps though as we get older, we start to see the reality of the finite aspects of time, and that it is a gift to be cherished.
One thing that has helped me tremendously with flexibility is goal setting, and trying to prioritize my goals. I try to set up to 3 goals per day, and prioritize them. If I can get at least one of them done, as I planned it, I am pleased. Getting all 3 is a nice bonus, but if I cannot get to all 3, I try to be more accepting of this, particularly if I got my #1 goal done. I won’t totally abandon those other goals, but I try to look forward in my week and see where they can fit.
Again, this is a lifelong pursuit to be more flexible and patient. But I hope that I can guide my children how to do this well, by giving advice and by setting the example. With these two invaluable tools of flexibility and patience, I can foresee my children being valuable members of a workplace, a family, and a team. They will be productive and well respected, and I think they will be well adjusted and more satisfied with their lives and accomplishments.